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How long have you been doing what you do, and how did you become a Personal Transformation and Inner Relationship Coach?
To answer this question, it’s probably best that I share with you a defining moment, and resulting “compelling story”, that brought me to where I am today – coaching women to focus on their relationship with themselves and to focus on that first.
I coach people who (like I used to be) have grown up with the idea that their not good enough, they don’t deserve nice things, or don’t deserve to achieve their dreams, believing that were suppose to struggle, fights tooth and nail to get anything we want, life’s supposed to be hard…
Find a good job, struggle until retirement. No vacations. No nothing. Jobs are supposed to suck. Always expect the worst to happen. That’s life. Deal with it.
Who wants to live in that world of struggle and complacency?! Not me.
My biggest philosophy and belief is that everything is energy. With everything being energy it’s all connected, it’s our thoughts, feelings, beliefs, and patterns in our life that create our external world. It doesn’t matter what situation you’re in, you have to take full responsibility for where you are at this moment, this second in your life.
It’s your thoughts and feelings that create everything in your life. Unless you’re ready to take control over your thoughts, feelings, beliefs, and patterns, you’ll never be able to create the life you want and find your purpose.
I’ve been on a personal journey for over five years until things started to click for me. To see the things in life that I wanted to attract, I had to change everything I was taught to believe in. This helped me come out of my shell and find my purpose.
I’ve been through two divorces with boyfriends in between and re-experiencing the same pattern of thinking I’m not good enough. I thought success depended on me having a partner. It wasn’t until I realized that I had to take full responsibility for my relationships (and every other area of my life) that I could recognize that I was creating all this fear and anxiety and manifesting these codependent relationships. I was always trying to control the situation, doing everything I could to keep the other person happy, to keep things always on an even keel, which took away pieces of me.
That defining moment in my life happened when I realized that I’m the one doing this to me, not anybody else, I wasn’t a victim of other peoples actions or decisions. I started to listen to my intuition and to what my body was telling me. I was done accepting these patterns. I took complete responsibility for my life. It was as if someone smacked me upside the head and I thought “holy shit – I created this.”
So I woke up.
I had to sit with myself, and take stock, and came to the conclusion that I had to do something about all this – someway, somehow – and just do it.
Right at that point, an ex-boyfriend reconnected with me and I instantly got a new knowing. Knowing what I know now, whether or not our relationship works out, I’m meant to do this work. I took responsibility of my thoughts. Being reconnected to this person brought up all those old fears and anxieties and negative thoughts all over again, I recognized it immediately and changed myself talk this time.
“I am deserving.”
“I am capable of love.”
“I deserve to have a successful relationship with a partner who is supportive.”
“I deserve to be happy and joyful.”
“I am in control of how I react to this situation.”
“I have a purpose in life.”
My biggest realization was that it wasn’t about what he did or didn’t do for me, but it was about how I felt inside how I was reacting, that was the most important thing. I used to have this vision of my perfect man and I eventually let all that go and realized it was the feeling that I wanted to create in the relationship. That feeling of love and acceptance for who I was and knowing that I had control over my thoughts, feelings, beliefs, and patterns – and that those would manifest my happiness.
Here’s how I became a coach. My sister was in the darkest place ever immediately after her divorce with two young kids to take care of. She felt her soul was black; there was no life left in her. I worked with her to explore how she was feeling and where she wanted to go. The next day she felt amazing and had clarity on the direction she wanted to go with her life – she was ready to make a change, go after her goals and dreams, and put herself first.
I felt so fulfilled and a sense of PURPOSE like I’d never felt before. I was on the right track. This is what I need to be doing. This is my passion and purpose – to help women like me, my sister, and you reconnect to who we are and what we want.
I cleaned up my past and started teaching women how they can do the same: I watched them peel away the layers of shit that they’ve internalized since birth to reconnect with their spirit and higher purpose! I have since made a commitment to dedicate the rest of my professional life to helping other women take back their personal power, to believe in themselves, to make the decision to follow their path, purpose, and dreams in their life. They feel supported and know that we can do this together.
Since then, I’ve worked with many private clients, spoken in front of countless groups: I lived my dream of doing what I love to do, traveling to some pretty cool places, and helping people while also achieving my goals and dreams all while owning who I am; and I have created the “Ignite Your Purpose “program: a coaching process that destroys all those negative beliefs and patterns that you’ve adopted over your life so you can bring out who you are, own your internal and external beauty, and be able to share that with the world.